Who do you depend on?, should be transformed to are you willing to stand on your own, but knowing also that you may have to rely on others to achieve bigger things? You might be let-down, and you might be disappointed. These obstacles are part of a way in character building, and they eventually may help you grow and develop into the only person you need to become: yourself, the one God intended you to be. Learn that there is only One that you can depend on and you will learn to cope with, disappointment and frustration. I heard it said “be yourself, all the others have been taken”.
Don’t fall into the trap of having an expectancy of people, as your disappointment when let down can turn into frustration and eventually bitterness. So often we can have an expectancy particularly of Christians and those closest to us. Drop your expectancy as you have no rights to it.
I am still in a process of learning to always trust in Him and know that He is in control. There is a difference between knowledge of the fact, and living constantly in the peace and reality of the fact.
Psalms 62:5 I depend on God alone; I put my hope in him. GNB
Dependence on God and God alone, it’s not something people do naturally. Our first thought is to turn to a friend, relative, or our minister/pastor/leader, when what we really should be doing is turning to God. Only God knows what we need and only God can do for us what is best. People have limited knowledge, and understanding and therefore operate under those parameters. People also have their own struggles in life to deal with. When we continually turn to others with our problems, we become people and not God dependent. In fact we can be just piling our problems onto the load they are already carrying.
It is right and good to help each other out. We are instructed in Galatians to do so.
Help carry one another’s burdens, and in this way you will obey the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2 GNB
But unfortunately the tendency is for us to become dependent on each other, running to each other about every little difficulty or irritation in our lives. We do not encourage or lighten the load for each other when we do this. Instead we can be dragging others down with our complaints and difficulties. God wants to be the one we come to. He promises to help us and give us rest.
Matthew 11:28-30 Come to me, all you who are troubled and weighted down with care, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke on you and become like me, for I am gentle and without pride, and you will have rest for your souls; For my yoke is good, and the weight I take up is not hard.
It is a wonderful thing when believers will pray for one another. But this also can become a source of misplaced dependence. We don’t need to run to each other with every little petty problem. Many of those are best left between the you and God.
Psalms 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
Don’t put all your trust and dependence on people, including leaders of the church. No human can fulfil that kind of responsibility. Only God can. He has always been and will continue to always be here for us. He knows all and will do for us what is best. No person can do such things.
Don’t put your trust in human leaders; no human being can save you. When they die, they return to the dust; on that day all their plans come to an end. Happy are those who have the God of Jacob to help them and who depend on the LORD their God, the Creator of heaven, earth, and sea, and all that is in them. He always keeps his promises; Psalms 146:3-6 GNB
Consider your daily relationship with God. Is it only on the basis of I only communicate when I need Him, or do you have a trust and daily commune with Him? When we have that trust and daily communication with Him we know and can rest in the truth of these scriptures:-
We know that in all things God works for good with those who love him, those whom he has called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28 GNB
I alone know the plans I have for you, plans to bring you prosperity and not disaster, plans to bring about the future you hope for. Jeremiah 29:11 GNB
The Lord your God, is in the midst of you, the mighty warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you; He will be silently planning for you in His love and will rejoice over you with singing Zephaniah: 3:17
So it is Him and Him alone that we should depend upon and place our constant trust. When we have that relationship with Him we also have the mind of Christ which guides, and reassures us.
for, Who has known the mind of the Lord so as to instruct him? But we have the mind of Christ. 1 Corinthians 2:16
Keep secure and trusting in Him.