There are two common causes for leaders to encounter issues in their role.
- Weak leadership skills.
- Poor relational skills.
I notice there are some pastors and church leaders who have never received formal training in relational or management skills, which can in some instances be a contributory factor to encountered difficulties.
Detailed below are observations of outstanding leaders.
- They spend time in prayer. The more we are in communication with God listening to the Holy Spirit, the more we realise and demonstrate His mercy and grace. Coming to this place leads to greater humility, which is a key attribute of those with great relational skills.
- They take an interest in people. Listen to people who wish to share with them, also enquire of them and take an interest. Therefore, they remember detail and make further enquiries. A key indicator of relational health is a desire to direct the conversation to concern and questions about others.
- They rarely speak about themselves.This trait is the after effect of the previous characteristic. They share about themselves when it is relevant and helpful at the time and not self-absorbed.
- They are intentional about relationships.They don’t wait for others to take the initiative. They are focused on others that they naturally seek to develop relationships.
- They have a healthy sense of humour.This attribute is natural because the leaders are not thinking obsessively about themselves. In fact, they are prone to laugh at themselves and their own perceived inadequacies.
- They deal with criticism with grace.Pastors and other church leaders deal with critics regularly. They listen and demonstrate grace evaluating and addressing in their own life if necessary. Understanding that the criticism levelled is that persons evaluation and opinion, however working towards winning them and not alienating them. Most of the time, the leaders with great relational skills will not take the criticism too personally.
- They make themselves accountable.They relate with someone they can trust and are able to share and receive their constructive help and advice. Their egos are not so tender that they are unwilling to receive constructive criticism. To the contrary, many of these leaders seek such input on a regular basis to enable them to make the necessary adjustments in their own lives.