Are you a giver or a taker and how do you connect with others, either in a group or just one on one? The answer depends on you. Even if connecting with others is something you are not good at today, you can learn how to do it and improve as you work at it. Learning how to add value to others is the main key. When people see you really care, some of their scepticism of you lessens. Someone is wanting us to do something, either at home or at the work place. Having a good attitude and learning how to connect with others is a giant step in making your life easier and happier. No matter what we do in life, we will always be involved with people, We can learn how to better relate to those around us so we will be more effective in all areas of our lives.
Watch your actions. Your actions speak so loud that your words are not even heard. What we say accounts for only 7 percent of what we believe, The way we say it accounts for 38 percent and what others see accounts for 55 percent. Wow, more than 90 percent of the impression we convey has nothing to do with what we actually say. So if you think communication is all about words you are so wrong. Whether it is your spouse or a co-worker, people watch our actions more than what we say. Learn awareness of your actions, and how it is impacting on those around you, and it will help you in connecting with others. This is not easy, but nothing is ever going to happen unless you change the way you are doing things and start watching your actions. Little by little you will observe others reacting in a positive way.
Relating well with people requires being a giver. In life you will meet givers and takers, you may even be a taker but you can change. Who would you rather be around, a giver or taker? The givers I am sure, they just seem kinder and nicer to be around. I am sure those givers were not born that way, each person has to learn giving, The Bible says, Acts 20:35 In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: It is more blessed to give than to receive.
Being a giver requires energy, and effort, and that’s not always easy, especially in a stressful lifestyle. However, being a taker can drain us more and literally makes us feel “dead” inside. Being a giver brings life to our inner man, like watering a plant so that it will grow, but being a taker is like sucking the water and all the nutrients out of the soil leaving both the plant and the soil dry and lifeless totally useless.
A taker can become isolated because those who have been involved with them no longer wish to be associated, or feel the pressure of the taker presenting their demands or needs. It can in some instances be demonstrated by a taker as a form of emotional blackmail which can alienate those around.
So decide to be a giver! Give love, grace, gratitude, compassion, finance, time and you will live in the overflow, for these are all giving modes. When you give out of your heart you are expecting nothing in return. It then becomes a gift and it fills and renews. Give without ties and an expectancy of something at some stage in return. You will see that life can and will be better if you learn to give more.
When you do receive express appreciation and encourage the giver. Teach your children how to have right attitudes to giving, sharing, and receiving and they will grow up as mature adults that have friends, and are a blessing to those they associate with.